This is a post in collaboration with Simply Be
There’s a strong misconception about me.
It’s that I’m confident.
When I meet someone new, I’m always described as loud, bold, confident. And I love being described that way, I really do. But I’ll let you in on a bit of a secret. I’m really well, not any of those things. At least, maybe not as naturally as they seem.
I have my insecurities. My hang ups. A long list of faults about myself. And those are hard to battle every single day. So one of my coping mechanisms along the way was to flip it on its head and just… be a bit loud. Be a bit bold. Especially when I don’t feel like I am.
I am the one who will make the awkward conversation because I can’t handle a lull. I’ll make small talk for days (even though I feel I’m very bad at it). I’ll volunteer to speak first in a group because OH MY GOD THE DREAD OF WAITING YOUR TURN.
I don’t know how to describe it, but it’s like being an extroverted introvert. I’m hiding my introverted-ness by being loud, bold and well, confident. So while I’m not the most confident (at least in my head) – out there – in the big, brilliant world of ours, I can be. And I try my best to be.
Because to me, it’s not worth it to not make friends or go to new places. New experiences are amazing! And the amount of times I’ve absolutely dragged myself along to something new… Well, I’ve never once regretted making myself get up and out there.
In fact, I think that one of my insecurities has turned into one of the best things that I can do for myself. And hey, I guess it’s OK, because my way of coping with my confidence has led me to embrace risks, take chances and make the best of friends.
And sometimes, when I’m feeling really not confident… I know that it’s about building your armor. A pretty dress and jacket can take me from feeling ho-hum to va-va-voom.
So I’ve been obsessing over Simbly Be’s collections lately and wanted to tell you about it. Seriously, their coats are dreamy. And they have a whole range of collections on their site too. I love their own line Simply Be, but they feature brands like Levi’s, Monsoon and Accessorize as well. I’m DEFINITELY in the market for some new Levi’s.
This dress is super me. In case you didn’t notice, I’ve found some extra confidence with wearing orange tones as of late. Is it just me, or have you found that certain colours that you never thought you’d wear when you were younger actually look so good now?
And then of course, I had to give it a little edge with this beaut gray aviator jacket. I’ve always wanted to own an aviator jacket. It’s one of those very cool girl finds that I’m extra pleased about. I really do think that when we feel good about what we’re in, we have the ability to take on a more confident persona.
It’s all in the things we do to make ourselves feel good. And I’m happy that my weird coping mechanism is being loud and that the clothes I wear sometimes can help with how I feel too. Because of it, I’ve made friends, I’ve bought the kick ass dress and I’ve made the memories.
Do you have any ways that you cope with insecurities or lack of confidences?
Kelly xx